Love is more than a feeling, it’s a decision.......

Dear all,

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This article is from an FB page Beautiful [Me]

Beautifully written to remind us about appreciating our partner. Love is more than a feeling, it’s a decision. I have many youngsters writing to me about wanting to get married and build a family after reading my blog!! (Homaigawd!!! What have I done??!!) Sustaining a relationship / marriage is a lot of hard work. Trust me!! Trying to change your partner is definitely not an option. Looking for a perfect person will take you forever. But learning to accept the other person as-he-is saves you from a lot of heart ache.

AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here’s the answer…

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because:

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

Corat coret anak2 dan masa depan.....

My two lovely doters - From left : Nabihah and Najihah.......

My lil doter - Nazihah......

Dear BLOG,

Rasanya aku agak kurang bercerita mengenai anak2ku...... Utk pengetahuan korang, aku ada 3 orang anak pompuan...... Takde lagik perancangan utk start production baru kay...hihihihihi. Our life agak kelam kabut bila anak2 makin membesar. Remember, sekali lagik nak di ingatkan, aku nih sang isteri yg bekerja from 9am to 6pm..... And continue keja kat rumah sebagai housewife with never ending story mori..... Camni laa life aku sekarang...... Owhh yaa.... my hubby dah tak bekerja di KL sekarang. Alhamdulillah, En. Somi dapat keja kat area Bandar Baru Bangi and just berhadapan dengan rumah kami. Alhamdulillah!!!!!!

So our life now very relaxing..... pasal takde nak merempuh traffic lagik.... Kuar rumah pun boleh lambat2...... Soo our morning start without kelam kabut nak pegi keja but cuma agak kelam kabut menguruskan anak2.... Nabihah now dah DARJAH 4 dan sekarang bersekolah dalam sessi pagi. And my 2nd eldest lak, Najihah dah DARJAH 3 and still bersekolah sessi petang. Adik agak terasa bila kakak dh tiada di sisi utk duduk di TASKA and pegi sekolah sorang2..... Kakak pulak seronok dan bersemangat ke sekolah sbb tiap2 pagi bangun paling awal.....hihihihihihi. 

Hmmm baby plak..... Sekarang nih still sekolah kat LITTLE CALIPHS and berada di dalam kelas 5 tahun. Lupa lah pulak nama kelas Baby.....hihihihihihi. Baby lak sometimes ada TANTRUM..... setiap hari ISNIN mesti bg tau IBU, " Baby tak nak pegi sekolah...... Baby nak duduk rumah....Ibu cuti laa hari nih.....Kita boleh pegi Alamanda....."....Hahahahahaha macam aku kata kat FB Wall aku, ALAMANDA is her favorites place.....  And aku selalu laa kena carik idea cmna nak galakkan Baby pegi sekolah.......

" OK laa Baby tak yah pegi sekolah kay.... Baby tinggal sorang2 kat rumah tau..... Tapi IBU takut laa nanti ada CAT datang lepas tuh gigit baby......." Bila dengar ajer camtu, terus dia berfikir jap..... Terus nak pegi KINDIE........ Sebab dia mmg takut dengan kucing. Jiran sebelah aku plak bela kucing...... Soo apa lagik... Mmg menjadik laa aku takutkan dia....Hihihihihi dulu DURIAN skerang plak KUCING....... Please korang jgn tiru cara aku nih.... Tak sesuai utk anak2 korang......

 Sekarang nih Nabihah and Najiha dah tak TRANSIT kat KINDIE baby...... Starting tis year, aku hantar dorang kat TASKA kat Seksyen 9 gak tapi opposite rumah kami..... Kalo nak tahu budak2 nih TRANSIT x sampai pun 1 jam..... Cuma Kakak and Adik....bila balik from KAFA or Sekolah Kebangsaan, cepat2 mandi, makan and pergi sekolah masing2 balik....... Hmm tp tahun nih memandangkan semua harga TASKA utk tujuan transit naik melambung tinggi, apalah pilihan cam aku nih yg ada kan? Takpe laa yg penting anak2 aku selamat and teratur.

Citer pasal Babah plak.... Sejak bekerja dekat dengan rumah, maka IBU rajin2kan diri bangun pagi2 utk masak BFAST and LUNCH...... So that anak2 dapat bawak bekal kat sekolah and Babah can go back or tapau from home nak makan BFAST and LUNCH..... Kol 5.30 pagi aku dah bangun utk memasak.... Mesti jiran2ku yg masih tido tuh terganggu dengan bunyi kelentang kelentong kat dapur aku kan? Sambil memasak, sempat gak laa mendobi apa yg patut..... And sempat gak laa mengemas barang anak2 utk TRANSIT dan TASKA. Seriously, aku ENJOY dan BANGGA dapat menguruskan anak2 dan somi...... Mmg for 1 month and 2 months cam penat giler tp laa nih dah masuk 3 bulan, aku dah biasa denga RUTIN harian nih...... Paling penting bahagia tengok anak2 and En, Somi HAPPY dan cukup makan....hihihihihihi

Just imagine kalo aku still cont keja BANK kan, for sure aku tak dapat melalui cara hidpku sekarang yg aku panggil 'WORKLIFE' balance...... Alhamdulillah, kerana Allah s.w.t. mengurniakan aku tempat keja yg dekat dengan rumah and dekat ngan anak2 & En. Somi..... For almost 2 years, aku bahagia dengan cara hidup begini...... Syukran!!!! Keja plak mmg laa makin lama makin mencabar tp tidaklah se-STRESS mcm keja dulu2...... Banyak perkara yg aku pelajari...... 

Camtu laa kisah hidupku sekarang...... Wiken pulak kami ke KL utk melawat Makku yg berada di Danau Kota....... Yupp kadang2 rindu jugak ngan KL....hiruk pikuk dan traffic...... Tp utk melalui semua itu tiap2 ari...... tak mo laa..... Unless laa kalo aku dapat offer keja kat KL???? Not looking for more MONEY but aku cuma mahu hidup dengan cara sederhana..... Bersyukur dengan apa yg ada sekarang ini. AMIN.

It's all about ME........

Dear BLOG,

I did this TAGGED about 2 years ago. Sapa yg suruh buat? Nurul Aini....... But when I look at this again...... Adakah aku masih NORLIDA yg dulu? Hmmm sincerely aku tak banyak berubah..... I'm still the same cuma umur ajer yg meningkat!

Jom audit diri aku balik...... tengok kat link sini.....OK here goes.......

" State 7 things about yourself "

1. I'm very simple, friendly and humble person.....so jangan takut nak kawan ngan aku........ (Comment - aku mmg cam dulu dan tak berubah.....)

2. I'm in LOVE with hangbags especially 'COACH' tp takde laa beli sampai wat koleksi kay.....ada laa tp skit ajer.....selalu laa gak tengok kat website tp sekadar cuci-cuci mata ajer laaa ( Comment - mmg aku suka COACH tp perasaan sekarang tak mcm dulu....beli pun dh takde...pakai apa yg ada...)

3. Aku suka melancong....paling suka melawat tempat orang tak kira dekat mahupun jauh........kalo gi melancong sambil bershopping lagik laa aku suka bangat......... (Comment - that's me....still and akan suka melancong.....cuma tempat yg aku idamkan masih belum kesampaian dan masih belum mendapat jemputan Illahi... In Shaa Allah korang doakan kay)

4. Aku paling suka beli pinggan mangkuk, periuk belanga, cadar katil, langsir, tupperware dan macam2 keperluan rumah......kalo di beri pilihan, aku sanggup berhabis utk beli barang2 nie sbb aku mmg SUKA........... (Comment - A MUST trip to Langkawi sbb berhabih nak beli benda2 yg aku sangat suka nih)

5. Aku nie sebenarnya seorang yg pemalu, tak konfiden pada kemampuan diri sendiri dan takut pada pujian...sbb aku rasa ada orang kat luar sana yg lebih pandai dan berjaya dari aku...... (Comment - sampai sekarang aku mmg x percaya pada diri sendiri - teringat apa Kak Sarinah bg tau , " Allah s.w.t. takkan menguji kita dengan sesuatu perkara yg kita tak mungkin dapat lakukan"...... Hmmm betul gak kan?)

6. Aku bahagia dengan kehidupan aku sekarang......syukur di kurniakan suami yg baik (my dearie hubby - my best frens), anak2 pompuan yg comel lote dan kehidupan yg sederhana dan di kelilingi keluarga yg amat menyayangi aku......thanks Allah s.w.t (Comment - Aku masih menikmati bahagia dan bersyukur ke hadrat Allah s.w.t. kerana mengurniakan 11 tahun yg membahagiakan!)

7. Aku berangan-angan nak KURUS cam zaman anak DARA tp mungkin tidak menjadik kenyataan psl aku suka masak dan pandai masak.....so sendiri mau ingat laa kay!!!!! (Comment - Cehh yg nih tak tahan..... tp sekrang aku berazam nak kurus sbb nak sihat..... Tolonglah Ya Allah s.w.t. Tolong laa hambamu ini kekal sihat dan jauh dari penyakit merbahaya..... Bab masak nih mmg aku nak jadik PRO....doakan kay.... Masak selalu tp kurang makan...hihihihihi)

Ok...ok...dah laa tuh.....aku still dapat hupdate BLOG yg bersarang labah-labah nih.... Keja dan urusan rumahtangga mengatasi segala2 nya....Oleh itu, aku abaikan BLOG dan menumpukan kepada 2 perkara penting dlm hidupku.......

Fuihhh...... syukur masih di berikan masa utk menulis......Bila stress kita menulis...... Besok, kita SHOPPING nak hilangkan STRESS kay.....

Chow chin chow!!!!!  

Feb 2013 - Kenangan di Jogjakarta.... See aku masih macam dulu2 kan?